Dada Emmanuel Olayinka
2 min readMay 4, 2024

11 PHRASES YOU SHOULD NOT TELL YOUR SPOUSE

1.STOP BEING PETTY.
This belittles your spouse and makes your spouse keep from being safe to talk with you.

2.HOW CAN YOU BE SO STUPID?
This is an insult.
Find a mature way to communicate when your spouse does something you do not approve.

3.MAN UP! BE A MAN! IT FEELS LIKE I AM THE ONE WEARING THE PANTS IN THIS MARRIAGE.
This makes a man feel disrespected and discourages him from being the man you would like him to be.

4.YOUR MOTHER DID NOT TEACH YOU HOW TO BE A WIFE.
This pushes your wife away and demeans her by destroying her self esteem.

5.THIS IS WHO I AM, DEAL WITH IT.
Love is about learning and growing, be open to learning, correction and growing.

6.SHUT UP!.
Don't silence your spouse's voice, thoughts and contribution; this is emotional abuse.

7.GET OUT OF MY HOUSE.
Whoever pays rent or bought the house, the house belongs to the both of you.
Just because you are angry doesn't mean you issue threats.

8.YOU PROSTITUTE.
Just because you suspect your spouse is entertaining another, whether this is real or perceived; don't label your spouse, it solves nothing.

9.I SHOULD HAVE NEVER MARRIED YOU, MY FRIENDS WERE RIGHT.
In moments of anger, don't question all the years of love you two have invested.

10.I WANT A DIVORCE.
Don't threaten to quit the marriage just to manipulate your spouse to change.

11.I HAVE MADE THE DECISION AND THAT IS FINAL.
Don't be a dictator in your marriage, it ruins partnership.

Dada Emmanuel Olayinka

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