Dada Emmanuel Olayinka
3 min readFeb 5, 2024



Dear Brother,

l write to you as a concerning the relationship, affection regarding marriage to shared with you burdens affection, dedication that attached to real marriage.

These are the important messages you shouldn't forget in your life to time. These are what you need to hearing, learn, know and understand very well before you get married. Marriage is not just I love you, there are many responsibility that attached to marriage because men are very clear thinker.

You must be an open minded person, don't be a lier in your relationship and marriage. don't be useless Like tissue paper, don't be time waster and helpless man to your spouse, Be a close friend to your wife. Don't start create series of excuses to be a man that is not responsible. Excuses is not a good attitude for a man.

if you are transparent, wide open minded, tested and trusted to your wife, She won't cheat on you or toy with your emotions.She will straight forward with you, any time, any day and she will stand by you, but the movement you do other wise, you will see other side of woman. she will do anything to bring you down and put you to shame in the present of your family.

Always give your wife money, 💰 ego, kudi and Owo anytime. As a man now don’t trying to have side chicks or married another woman when you have a beautiful one at home. unless she left you to your Faith.

Always give your wife bedroom injection, it’s is very important in relationship to give her bedroom injection and they are three things hidden under relationship and marriage, money, communication and others.


My daughter,you are now a wife and soon you’ll be become a mother too. God bear me witness that I taught you how to cook and do other house chores. I taught you to respect men and to explain your anger when necessary but if you do otherwise,i know you,not as a daughter but as my fellow woman.

My daughter,you see this your husband? He is a gentleman but don’t take advantage of that. Don’t bring out the beast in him. My daughter,you see this mark on my forehead?
Your father gave it to me.He tolerated me everytime but on that day,He came unexpectedly.It wasn’t his intention but i dared him and he hit me just once.

My daughter,Men hate it when you use the word “YOU CAN’T DO IT”.He sure can do more than but he’s just protecting you from harm. My daughter, whenever there is an arguement or misunderstanding, try drinking water.You can’t talk when you have water in your mouth.
Now,you have two families.You are very lucky.Tolerate and appreciate them just as you
did here. Learn to welcome other people’s kids and soon, children will sorround your table with love.

You see that my big pot? I bought it when i still had no child but i always cooked with it to feed those children who had nothing to eat.
Learn to show hospitality. Welcome a visitor and at least,offer a glass of water.Don’t discriminate.

Don’t shatter your husband’s family. instead, bring them together. Learn to appreciate little efforts and soon,they’ll
learn to do more.

Today,you are wearing a wedding gown and you look so beautiful in it but there is still another gown you need to wear.That is the MATERNITY gown. I wore it and you shall wear your’s too.

When you have a misundertanding, don’t come back here.Sort things out and build a happy home.I built mine and your father enjoyed me.

Men like food.They like both the kITCHEN food and the BEDROOM food.Don’t deny him any of the food all because you had an arguement. If the ones i taught you are not enough, learn more!

May you not fail in your marriage

Writing by DEO Olayinka Emmanuel Dada
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